We come from a culture where we grow up in other people's houses and that is fantastic, but we became too familiar with mixing company. We forget that we are NOT related or even if we are - even in the company of my cousins, mixnig is still prohibited.
Being 3 sisters, we didn't really have issues of mixing with boy cousins. We'd only see them on Eid. If we went away on holiday we could take one cousin with and we mostly chose a girl.
Little kids are encouraged to kiss the elderly at family functions. But no one says "STOP!" .. so teenage boys or girls are seen kissing aunts and uncles (inlaws) and cousins.
Algamdulillah that this has popped into my head .... it is a new year so it is a new aspect of Islam I could implement in our lives.
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Carimah, this is a very relevant post especially for our culture here in Cape Town. My cousins and their husbands often invite themselves to my sister's place to swim when she is expected to serve them and their children who bring along friends, etc. On these occasions we choose not join them in the pool...that we reserve for when our family is alone with no non-mahram men around!
Very relevant indeed.Notice how many people make snyde remarks or get downright offended wen u dont take their hands.i dread days like Eid for this reason alone...ducking and diving!I think it just goes against so many people's nafs to give up a practice they became used to culturally.I wish everyone would just see an action like this for what its worth...ie 'this person is putting Allah before anything else even risking my offense for the sake of pleasing Allah'
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